Okay, so before I get into this let me give you a little background. I used to have a job located in Auburn, WA. During my employment there I had a coworker who became someone who I had to train, this individual frustrated the fuck out of me.
To this day I remember the day he tried to take a pad off of a die grinder without holding the shaft stationary. It was like he was trying to unscrew a nut from a bolt without holding the bolt, so all he was doing was turning a object in circles and not making any progress other than looking like an idiot who probably shouldn’t have that job in the first place.
I also had another coworker, who I talked to, but didn’t really care to hang out with.
Throughout the years the second coworker, who no longer lived in the same state as me found me on Facebook just based on the fact that he and I liked the same radio station/Facebook page. He commented on one of my posts on their page, it caught me off guard but was cool nonetheless.
Getting back to the first employee I mentioned, on the day I said, “If he doesn’t want to pay attention and at least pretend that he is learning something, I’m not going to try to teach him anything.” I said it in anger, and I probably shouldn’t have, he was a nice kid who was more than willing to do his job, but didn’t seem to grasp at the most basic idea.
This guy is Facebook friends with the other guy. After I stopped caring to try to teach him and just told him shit without any explanation they moved him to the other side of the shop; same department, different area. So guy 2 ended up training guy 1 and therefore ended up as friends on Facebook.
I typically never add coworkers to Facebook until I don’t work with them, I don’t want them to know too much about me.
As soon as guy 2 found me on Facebook, I get a friend request from guy 1. Whatever, I don’t care, it’s not like I’m trying to avoid him. And I come to find out that he now lives in Oregon, and at that time I was about 1 year away from moving to Oregon.
Fast forward to August 5th, 2017; I share something on Facebook about how it’s cool if you rape someone, kill someone, get in a fight the requires police action, hit your wife, or do copious amounts of drugs when you’re in the NFL but if you sit down you’re the worst player in the history of the NFL.
So…A conversation with guy 1 came out of the woodwork, we will call guy 1 ‘Steve.’ While it was a fairly short conversation, I was proud of myself for being so clear and concise with my way of thinking. I will refer to myself in the third person, kind of. I will even edit his comments to appear as is he knows how to use words properly.
Steve: This post is so stupid. So you’re okay with people in America not standing for our flag that your founding fathers fought for?
If you’re a fan of the NFL, you know what I’m talking about so I’m not even going to share the picture. But if for some reason you have no idea what I’m talking about, I’ll let you know if you ask.
Like…really, you’re going to ask me that? After the initial “what the fuck” moment I added onto it by saying…
Daniel: Since when did they not have the right to choose not to stand?
Which sounds kinda weird because, I feel like, the word ‘not’ creates a double negative.
Steve: If they are living in the U.S.A., playing an American sport, they should show their respect to our country and its military.
Okay, so I wasn’t really going to fight him there, that…while related that was not my focus, but I was getting ready to go this road if that is where he wanted to go.
So I asked a basic question.
Daniel: Do they have to?
I figured, if you’re going to go down the route let’s try to figure out why you’re not okay with it.
I leaned that when you talk to someone who has an opposing view to yours it’s a good thing to find out where they are coming from. Hopefully force them to look at themselves instead of just telling them why they are wrong.
Steve:No body has to do anything but people have the right to lose respect for that person who won’t even show respect to their country
He more or less said what I was hoping he would, but man…a right and a freedom are two different things. While I can see a connection between to two it’s not like they stood up in 1776 and say, “Now hear this, it is your right as an American citizen to loose respect for people.”
But that did make me take the question to its next logical point.
Daniel: And the other crimes are okay?
To which he responded just as I hoped.
Steve: No they are not okay, look at O.J. and Arron Hernandez; they are in prison and because of it don’t have fans anymore.
At this point I asked myself if he knew what was going on it the world but that is beside the point.
I go onto say…
Daniel:Okay, so yes, while people have the freedom to dislike whoever, for whatever; it is massively skewed. He has the freedom to not stand because of what he deems to be an injustice. It just bothers me when all these people loose their shit because he remained within the guidelines of the law without being violent or hostel while trying to shine light on an issue that needed more exposure.
Before he could reply to that I said… But in terms of keeping the conversation in-line he said…
Steve: There are other ways to shine light. I just think it’s very disrespectful to our country and our men, they fought for our country so he can play football and he won’t even stand and show respect.
But before I replied to that I said…
Daniel: Now, if you stand for a country who is doing something that you don’t agree with, is that freedom of speech or expression? Who is the fucked up person in that situation?
I was not expecting a response from that, I just left it as something he can ponder. But I did reply to his last statement by saying…
Daniel: They fought for you to have freedom, the freedom not to.
He ended up liking that comment. I could tell he wasn’t trying to fight, neither was I.
Steve: That’s true. I just feel it’s a matter of respect.
Okay, so I took that, his definition of respect a little bit further. It was also my last comment.
Daniel: Okay, so…choosing to act in a non-violent manner about something that you disagree with is a sign of respect. Choosing to not stand is a sign of respect. They, if you want to call it that, they fought for…I could totally do a research paper on why we separated from Britain. Regardless, not standing; which is your freedom based upon a right that all American citizens have, is…showing respect.
You have the freedom to, therefore exercising that freedom is showing respect for your country. A country and “the men” who gave you that freedom, the freedom to make a choice without being killed and vilified for doing so.
Now, blindly standing because it was beaten into your head as a kid… does that show me that you fully understand the freedom that you and all Americans have?
Are they standing because they choose to or because they were told to? And is that freedom?
And that’s that, I was actually proud that I was able to speak my point of view without sounding like an idiot who was just shouting meaningless words. And…now I’m going to go get out of my wheelchair and play Fallout 4.
Maybe I’ll get a little “some some” if I go hang out with my fiance for a few minutes.